Friday, July 9, 2010

हम तो ऐसे हैं भैया .... No pretense !

तुम इतना संतई दिखा रहे हो ,
क्या जुर्म है जिसको छुपा रहे हो?

With the advent of science and technology, I wonder why people are stuck with ages old beliefs. Every second person can be seen preaching. Why not they just try to correct themselves. Isn't it wise to correct ourselves , instead of going on changing the world?

One should be focused more on the general issues for the benefit of society and mankind, instead of making ourselves too big and conspicuous.

A friend asked me to write something related with health, so I chose to write on our flickering mentality. Why we pretend to be good, when we are not? Why we preach others when we cannot practice the same? Why can't we be original?

I love to be the way I am !...Take it or leave it !...or just Get lost !. I hate to pretend that I am decent , specially with cannibals in sheep's skin.

Why every person is living in fear? What is on stake? If we have not committed any crime then why the fear? What we are gonna lose? Is there anything which belongs to us? Then what is that we are possessive of?

Some are pretending to be sober somber and suave.
some are genuine patriots
some are dedicated to art
some are savior of national language rather personal language.
some are worried about 'Taliban' .
some are worried about their graceful image.
some about losing their readers and so called e-love.

Unfortunately all are living in illusion. Nothing is ours except truth. Truth is-" living in moments ". The momentary happiness, sadness, anguish, frustration, helplessness, orgasm, tears and natural smiles that appears on our lips when alone.

पहले कहते थे - भाई ने भाई को छुरा मारा , लेकिन आज का सच क्या है?
आज भाई लोग , बहेन को छुरा मारते हैं और ' honor killing' कहते हैं... Shame on such brothers !

The ignorant men and women get involved with each other and end up spoiling their lives. Gone are the days of immortal lovers where both of them used to suffer or die together. In 21st century girl commits suicide and the poor boy spends his life in prison.

अब पूछिए प्यार क्या है?
अरे भाई , जो pregnant कर दे, वही प्यार है। जो भाई को खून करने पे मजबूर कर दे, वही प्यार है.
यही तो भाईचारा है , - साल इश्क करो , फिर pregnant कर बदनाम करो , फिर जिल्लत से मरने के लिए छोड़ दो ..और एकला चलो रे ! ..किसी और को sperm donate करने के लिए। And let the history repeat itself !

Earlier i have seen pictures of leeches in my zoology book। Poor creatures were so useful in ancient medicine being used as a tool for blood letting. But unfortunately human-leeches crawl in our homes, offices and blog posts as well. They come to suck our blood and devastate us . So it's our duty to safeguard ourselves. No point pretending to be decent, just call leeches as leeches, idiots as idiots and spade as spade. No one can take away anything from you nor they will give any medal for your decency.

बेचारे बेजुबान जानवर तो गधे , कुत्ते और सुवर कहलाते हैं , लेकिन इंसान की शकल में भेडिये 'महोदय ' कहलाते हैं

Stop pretending !..Just be yourself !

We are not Gods and Goddesses.

हम तो ऐसे हैं भैया .....ZEAL कहो या दिव्या !


शिवम् मिश्रा said...

हम तो भाई जैसे है........ वैसे रहेगे !!
बहुत बढ़िया सीख दी आज आपने , आभार !

सुधीर राघव said...

दुनिया में सभी रंग हैं। भाई साहब भी हैं और भाई लोग भी। शब्द बेमानी ही निकलते हैं।

Indranil Bhattacharjee ........."सैल" said...

बहुत बढ़िया ... ऐसे ही रहिये ...

संगीता स्वरुप ( गीत ) said...

सटीक अवलोकन...सच को कहती यह पोस्ट अच्छी लगी...

अपनी पहचान ऐसे ही बनाये रखना...शुभकामनायें

Avinash Chandra said...

One should respect the being of another individual as original as he/she is.

What if someone asks Sachin to back left-handed because Ganguly's towering sixes are glorious?
Everyone has his/her individual identity and that must be respected until it is curbing your existence.

Divya ji,

I second you on this. Keep it up. And yes, be positive as you are...with the ever strong ZEAL :)


Avinash Chandra said...

Read back as bat*
was a typing error.

Arvind Mishra said...

सुभाषितम !

वाणी गीत said...

मैं सोचती हूँ हर सच्चा इंसान वही बनकर जीना चाहता है जो वास्तव में वह है ...मगर सामाजिक और पारिवारिक दबाव मजबूर करते हैं उसे वह दिखने के लिए जो वह नहीं है ...विशेषकर स्त्रियों/लड़कियों के लिए तो यह बहुत ही मुश्किल है ...मुझे लगता है की शायद इसलिए ही प्रेत बाधा से महिलाएं ज्यादा ग्रसित होती हैं ...:):)

वाणी गीत said...

वैसे तो यहाँ आपका कमेन्ट है फिर भी एक बार फिर याद दिलाने के लिए ..

एक नजर यहाँ भी

राजेश उत्‍साही said...

दिव्‍या इतनी पारदर्शिता भी खतरनाक होती है। हम तो उसी से टकरा जाते हैं। तुमने जो भी कहा हकीकत ही तो है। उसमें नमक मिर्च कुछ भी नहीं। कच्‍चा ही चबा गईं। उबाला भी नहीं। बधाई। पर एक बात कहूं,अन्‍यथा मत लेना। केवल 'महोदय' नहीं 'महोदया' भी होती हैं।

सम्वेदना के स्वर said...

क्या आग है!! सच्चाई की आग... लेकिन क्या प्रेगनेंट होने में अकेले स्पर्म डोनर का हाथ है..?

Tanvi said...

Its true and beautiful :)

Sabi Sunshine said...

Well said Divya:)I really love your blog.. Thanks for your visit at my blog. I love to make new and good friends and you are one of them. I will catch you later at my blog.


hmmm... i think you also ended up preaching what you think is right. you said
"Unfortunately all are living in illusion. Nothing is ours except truth. Truth is-" living in moments ". Whatever you said may also be illusion.
life is like that dear when we think someone else is wrong actually we ourselves are worng.
(my english is not good but following your advice I am trying to be just myself)

Ashish (Ashu) said...

दिव्या जी शायद मॆ नासमझ हू पर क्या आप इन शब्दो का अर्थ बताने का कष्ट करेगीं "अरे भाई , जो pregnant कर दे, वही प्यार है।" शायद आपने व्यगं वाण चलाये हो तो माफ कीजियेगा

Ramesh Sood said...

Thanks divya for visiting me and for your encouraging comments.. I read your post and I am a bit confused.. you start with

" Every second person can be seen preaching. Why not they just try to correct themselves. Isn't it wise to correct ourselves , instead of going on changing the world?"

I liked these words.. but then your introduction shows your objective as correcting people and system.. your lines and this a little contradiction here.. no, don't take it as's only to understand what is it that emboldens you to write so intensely..

HBMedia said...

पहले कहते थे - भाई ने भाई को छुरा मारा , लेकिन आज का सच क्या है?
आज भाई लोग , बहेन को छुरा मारते हैं और ' honor killing'
कहते हैं... Shame on such brothers !सटीक अवलोकन...gaurtalab hai

sm said...

short cut and easy way make them worship
and our education system which does not teach us to ask

Mahak said...

really...........shame on such brothers & parents which do & sopport these "honour killings" ,
a mature boy & girl has the full right to decide his/her life partner
parents & their brothers or other family members can give their opinions and guidence but it should not be forced on the person afterall it is his/her life & he/she has the full right to spent it with the life-partner of his/her choice

@Divya Ji

again 10/10 stars from me for another great post of yours

ashish said...

मै जो इतना मुस्करा रहा हूँ, क्या लिखा तुमने वो जता रहा हूँ.. छिलका निकल दिया. मतलब नीर क्षीर अलग. अच्छा है ऐसे ही लिखती रहो ताकि हम अपने आप को इन्सान समझते रहे.

डा० अमर कुमार said...
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*Photographer Harjot Kaur * said...

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I am also doing a giveway feel free to enter if u like :)

Anonymous said...

Have I became a bit harsh ?
That's what I am !

ZEAL said...

@-केवल 'महोदय' नहीं 'महोदया' भी होती हैं।

Rajesh ji,

The referent "Insaan" is a neuter gender which doesn't have distinction of sex. So kindly read mahoday and mahodaya both in that particular mention.

No gender bias.

ZEAL said...

@-लेकिन क्या प्रेगनेंट होने में अकेले स्पर्म डोनर का हाथ है..?

@-Samvedna ke swar-

This is my question, If both are contributing equally [one sperm and ovum], then why only the girl deserves honor killing?

ZEAL said...

@ Ashish [Ashu]and
@ Dr Amar-

You both are confused about-

@-"अरे भाई , जो pregnant कर दे, वही प्यार है।"

The sarcasm is quite obvious in the line. Do i need to spoon feed there?

Love doesn't exist on earth.People are into lust only.

When there is lust and lust only, then where can we draw a line?

sandhyagupta said...

बेचारे बेजुबान जानवर तो गधे , कुत्ते और सुवर कहलाते हैं , लेकिन इंसान की शकल में भेडिये 'महोदय ' कहलाते हैं ।

Baat pate ki hai.

ZEAL said...

@ Ramesh sood-

There is no contradiction. There is a huge difference between preaching and correcting the system. Kindly do not mix up the two.

Preaching is personal..." Par updesh kushal bahutere".

Correcting system means using all your positive thinking and energies for the sake of mankind and uplifting the society.

संजीव गौतम said...

I am not happy with the system , so my objective is to correct people and system.
लेकिन इंसान की शकल में भेडिये 'महोदय ' कहलाते हैं ।

सतीश पंचम said...

well said....

little bit confusing @ जो प्रिग्नेंट कर दे वह प्यार है..

is it satire or opinion ?

सतीश पंचम said...

पोस्ट बिंदास्त अंदाज में लिखी गई है। वाणी जी के कमेंट से पूरी तरह सहमत। मेरा भी यही मानना है कि लोग बनना तो सही सही चाहते हैं पर परिस्थितियां उन पर झूठ-बनावट का मुलम्मा चढा़ ही देती है।


bebaak andaaz me apnee baat kah dee aapne.aglee post ka intaar rahega

प्रवीण पाण्डेय said...

इतना सीधा लेख पढ़कर मन में प्रसन्नता दौड़ जाती है । जैसे हों वैसे रह पाना कठिनतम कार्य है । चरित्रों को पहनावे की तरह ओढ़ने वाले दुखी कर जाते हैं, क्षुब्ध कर जाते हैं सभी के लिये । अपनी बातें बतलाता मज़दूर भी आत्मिक शान्ति दे जाता है ।

Amit Sharma said...

@ बेचारे बेजुबान जानवर तो गधे , कुत्ते और सुवर कहलाते हैं , लेकिन इंसान की शकल में भेडिये 'महोदय ' कहलाते हैं ।

वास्तव में तो इंसान को जानवरों के नाम से गाली देना उन निरीह प्राणियों के साथ अन्याय है, क्योंकि वे बिचारे तो प्रकृति प्रदत्त स्वाभाव को छोड़ते नहीं है, और इंसान अपनी नैसर्गिकता भूलकर घोर पाशविकता में लिपटा जा रहा है. ऐसे में उसको जानवर कहना जानवरों का अपमान है.
रोम रोम में जैसे बिजली दौड़ रही है आपका लेख पढने के बाद .........

रवि धवन said...

The bitter truth of our society.

पूनम श्रीवास्तव said...

divya ji,aapne bilkul yatharth likha hai.ham agar koi bhi kary karte haito vo ek rachnakaar ke dil ki sachchi aawaz hoti hai ,jisme mirch masaala lagaane ki jarurat hi nahi padati hai.
mai vani geet avam sandhya gupta ji ki baaton ka samarthan karti hun.shubh -kamna.

Satish Saxena said...

यहाँ भाव समझाने का प्रयत्न करने वाले कम लोग होते हैं दिव्या जी ! अधिकतर लोग आकर्षित करने वाले वाक्य पर अपनी प्रतिक्रिया दे जायेंगे फिर अपने बाल नोचती रहोगी ...


honor killing pr alg se post likhiye . aapko pdna chhungi . lkdi ki chouki post psnd aai thanks .

ZEAL said...

@-फिर अपने बाल नोचती रहोगी ...

ha ha ha Satish ji, sahi kaha aapne.

Lekin, koi to 'virla' hoga jo samjhega ?

वीरेंद्र सिंह said...

Well..Divya ji ...You raised genuine issues. But I think there are many issues in your post..

Any way, I got the message. I tried to understand what you really want to say. And I'm happy I got it.

Pankaj Upadhyay (पंकज उपाध्याय) said...

"Every second person can be seen preaching. Why not they just try to correct themselves. Isn't it wise to correct ourselves , instead of going on changing the world?"

That should be the motive but who follows it...

Now cming to your 'originality' debate. Don't you agree that we all have many faces.. many different persons are living inside us.. now question comes that amongst them, which is my original face?

You know when I go to home and meet my frns over there.. As they had my image as a serious guy, I always find myself serious among them.. Many a times I'd tried to change that but that is the image.. Here ppl find me a funny, lively guy and even I try to be serious, they find that funny...

so question comes what is originality? Do we have any originality? Is there anything such as originality or its a combinations of different images/impressions/personas??

looking forward to see a post from you on this one..

Himanshu Mohan said...

बहुत ख़ुशी की बात होती है किसी को सोचते नहीं - कहते देखना।
उससे ज़्यादा ख़ुशी की बात होती है कहते नहीं - करते देखना।
मुझे आपका हिन्दी में लिखने का प्रयास अच्छा लगा।
मैं जब अंग्रेज़ी में सोचता हूँ तो अंग्रेज़ी में ही लिखता हूँ, और जब हिन्दी में सोचता हूँ तो हिन्दी में।
ऐसा ही जीवन के साथ भी है - बहुत कुछ ऐसा है जो करना पड़ता है, सो करते हैं। बहुत कुछ है जहाँ स्वतन्त्रता है - सो मन का करते हैं। सच तो यही है कि सब स्वतन्त्र हैं - अपने मन का करने के लिए - एक दायरे में।
यही दायरा बड़ा करते जाने में स्वतन्त्रता है।
मगर उपदेश उचित नहीं है - जहाँ माँगी न जाय वहाँ तो सलाह भी उचित नहीं है।

BornIndividualist said...

Nice post. Agree with most of the part though not everything. The post has a tone which indicates that this matter was troubling you for a long time and it has been written in one sitting, at one go. :) To say in hindi 'dil ki baat kalam pe aayi' :D

There is nothing wrong in 'Take it or leave it' attitude so long as one is sure that what he/she has done or is saying is correct, is logical. Take example of Ayn Rand and Fredrich Nietzsche. Both in a promoted individualist philosophy but while Rand's argument were always rational and based on reason, same can't be said about Nietzsche.

संजय @ मो सम कौन... said...

बिंदास पोस्ट, बेबाक पोस्ट।

डॉ.भूपेन्द्र कुमार सिंह said...

Divya ,I really appriciate yr stand and liked yr views.In such modern days HONOUR KILLING word is taking place,its pathetic and shameful.
Keep writing and try to write in HINDI.
Best wishes and regards,

ethereal_infinia said...

Part 1 of 2

Dearest ZEAL:

Har ek baat pe kehte ho tum ke tu kyaa hain?
Tum hi kaho ke ye andaaz-e-guftagu kyaa hain?

A firebrand blog. And I ask myself, as I read it –

Is there any pretence in being selfish about ourselves first and then, if at all, thinking of the nation or the general public at large?

Is there any pretence in pointing the dangers to the person we care for most?

Is it pretence in spiting the improbable ambition of influencing change in a system for which we are too microscopic to even be acknowledged?

Is there any pretence to be content to be able to moderate things that are in our circle of influence rather than to vainly attempt altering the circle of confluence?

Is an honest disagreement on a topic a pretence or is a fake agreement on everything a pretence?

The blog is piping hot with the tumultuous anger that is so evident all through. Expression of angst has its own myriad avenues. You have chosen something you have the complete ownership of.

The mention of sperm donor and pregnancy was in pretty bad taste. I truly feel the seething anger of yours on such a barbaric thing. However, to bring crudity to the language to show one’s contempt is the defeat of language at the user’s hands in my personal opinion.

Here, let me state clearly that the point raised about ‘honour killing’ is very valid.

We have already been grappling with, what you feel, ‘archaic British laws’ and here we see the ‘barbaric Islamic practices’ drifting into the system. After all, they both ruled India for a long, long time.

And it is rightly said, old habits die hard. Zmiles.

ethereal_infinia said...

Part 2 of 2

The media and the general readers are eager for what is termed in journalistic circles as “Human Interest Stories”

These could be a lame person climbing a huge mountain or a very poor person hitting a jackpot or a very ordinary person suddenly coming into spotlight. These are stories of people around us who have experienced the unusual. They garner great readership mileage as they evoke emotions.

However, even more interesting stories are those where there is an element of crime blended into it.

These are stories of a bank cashier swindling the cash of which he was the custodian or the person who broke into the very home he was the security guard of or an insurance agent who facilitated fake claims from the very company he was earning his bread from or even more delectably, the one who murders a very near person camouflaging it as an act of ‘honour killing’

But, the point that most readers miss out is all these above examples I cited are extremely rare but media hype [driven by the economics of readership numbers] portrays them as if they are Ghar Ghar Ki Kahaani. Zmiles.

Kyaa kare, media waale bhi ant-tah yehi kahenge – Paapi Pet Kaa Sawaal Hain! Murdaa bhi gar khaanaa khilaa jaaye to kyaa harz hain. Hunko milaa inaam aur use morgue mein aaraam.

When we are passing through a jungle, we must be very aware that we do not befriend any hound in the first place. Having erred on that, the place being a jungle, prudence tells us that the next best thing is to move away without causing further rancour.

Wisdom is the better part of valour.

Ultimately, animals are animals, they are never going to listen. The hounds only know one thing – and that is to hunt down the innocent prey. The blood thirst controls them fully and nothing could make them see things any other way.

Law of the jungle has no mercy, neither rationale.

All said and done, I can not stop marvelling at your indomitable spirit and the fearlessness in your writing. However, there has been a slight shortcoming in it which the word “some” defines perfectly. But, then, as I see it, this is ‘Wisdom’ at work. Zmiles. Valour is already felt by each of the ‘some’ so distinctly identified.

Reminds me of a Gujarati ghazal’s opening couplet which roughly translates thus –

Dekhiye kis taraah humne tumhe chhupaayaa
Ghazal mein aayaa zikr to bhi naam naa aayaa


As I come to the concluding part of my comment, I would love to pay a tribute to the sterling woman that you are with the lines from a song of a very old movie –

Yeh shokhiyaa, yeh baankpan
Jo tujh mein hain, kahi nahi
Dilo ko jitne kaa fan
Jo tujh mein hain, kahi nahi

Main teri, main teri
Aankho mein paa gayaa Do Jahaan

Arth kaa
Natmastak charansparsh

Apanatva said...

its nice to know your views through your blog.......
keep it up .
sabhee tarah ke logo se jeevan me pala padta hai........
apane hee desh kee paristhitee ko jante bhee buraee kare sareaam to dhikkar hai aise bhartiyo par .
humare yanha system me kuch kamiya hai hum sabheeko aage badkar unhe theek karana hai .
pachle dashak me humne kafee pragti kee hai har kshetr baat kisee se chipee nahee.
maine kai post ek sath padee hai aur ye samuhik response hai.

पंकज मिश्रा said...

हम तो ऐसे हैं भैया ZEAL कहो या दिव्या !
ऐसे ही रहिये। बधाई।

Manish said...

main bhi aisa hi kuchh likhne vala tha...

aisa lag raha hai jaise maine hi likha ho...

lekin padh kar laga shayad main thoda bahut aap jaisa likh leta hu.. :D :D (just kidding)

words nahin mil rahe.... kyuki sant ki category me ham bhi aate hain...तुम इतना संतई दिखा रहे हो ,
क्या जुर्म है जिसको छुपा रहे हो?
but naatak nahin ho pata..

Aajkal aisa insaan hona bhi gunaah hai.... sab shuru se hi galat samajh lete hain... :( :(

अनूप शुक्ल said...

हम तो ऐसे हैं भैया .... No pretense !
जो छुपाते हैं वे भी ऐसे ही होते हैं। छुपा कर काम करना उनकी फ़ितरत होती है। सहज व्यवहार होता है।

Every second person can be seen preaching. Why not they just try to correct themselves.
यह भी एक तरह का उपदेश नहीं है क्या?

अरे भाई , जो pregnant कर दे, वही प्यार है।
इसको सही अर्थों में ग्रहण किया। लेकिन इस वाक्य में उत्साह इतना अधिक झलक रहा है कि कोई बलात्कारी इसे अपने समर्थन में प्रयोग कर सकता है। कहेगा हमने तो प्यार किया है। कोई गुनाह थोड़ी।

अच्छा लगा आपको केवल टिप्पणी करने वाले पाठक से एक ब्लॉगर के रूप में देखना। लिखती रहें।

ZEAL said...

@ Anoop Shukla-

Your comment is far from the topic. But a peculiar instinct of human being to first contradict and then think is evident in your comment.

@-लेकिन इस वाक्य में उत्साह इतना अधिक झलक रहा है कि कोई बलात्कारी इसे अपने समर्थन में प्रयोग कर सकता है। कहेगा हमने तो प्यार किया है। कोई गुनाह थोड़ी। ...

Educated Rapist will surely understand and will reform. But indeed some are incurable. For them we cannot do anything.

शिवम् मिश्रा said...

जन्मदिन की बहुत बहुत हार्दिक शुभकामनाएं और बधाइयाँ !

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Manish said...

Divya said...

@ Anoop Shukla- *@@#@#$@%$@&*

@ Divya

aap gr8 ho..... :) :) sach me...

एक बेहद साधारण पाठक said...

बहुत धारदार लेख है
पूरी तरह पढने पर ये प्रतीत होता है की मूल भावना में कोई दोष नहीं है , सन्देश सभी को है ( मतलब स्त्री पुरुष में भेद नहीं किया है )
इस लेख में कईं अलग अलग दिशाओं में बाण छोड़े गए है और सभी सही जगह पर जाते लग रहे हैं
मुझे सभी पूछे गया सवालों पर आश्चर्य हो रहा है ...

एक बेहद साधारण पाठक said...

(ये मैं लेख तो तीन बार पढने के बाद लिख रहा हूँ, लेखिका महोदया के विचार इससे मेल ना भी करते हों तो कोई बात नहीं , पर मुझे तो ये समझ में आया है )

मेरे ख्याल से कथित आधुनिक समाज में प्यार जैसे पवित्र भाव को कुछ विशिष्ट हारमोंस तक ही सिमित कर दिए जाने की और संकेत हो सकता है

किसी भी शब्द परिभाषा कभी कभी कडवी होती है पर ये तो वक्त के साथ बदलती हुयी सी बात है
जैसे पहले पूँजी से मतलब चरित्र होता था आजकल जमीन जायदाद होता है

ZEAL said...

Shivam ji, Amar ji, Manish ji, Gaurav ji....Thanks !

प्रवीण त्रिवेदी said...

आज तीसरी बार पढने आया .......कन्फूजन बढ़ गया ?
सो जैसे भी हों आप वैसी रहिये ...के सिवा कुछ कह नहीं पा रहा |

और हाँ ...."जन्मदिन" की शुभकामनाएं स्वीकार करें |

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